I was recently in Coles with my primary aged kids and a beautiful family was there with parents, kids and their special needs child – who was an adult age. He looked to have Tourette’s syndrome and yelled quite loud and hit himself too.
My children are children and they stopped and stared. Then they looked up at me and said ‘Is he ok Mum? He looks like he is hurting himself?’
I answered with ‘You know how mummy says everyone is special in different ways. That’s what makes him special. He might seem a bit different to other people but he’s ok – he’s not hurt and his family obviously loves him very much so he’s super ok. But let’s just remember – sometimes it can hurt our feelings to be stared at. So let’s not stare at him ok?’
I felt like the answer was ‘ok’ but it just wasn’t enough for me…. I felt like I wanted my kids to understand more but didn’t know what to say to them to help them understand.
Can any parents with special needs children help me with what you would want me to say about your child to my children? To teach them and grow their understanding, acceptance and love for your child? Or maybe you don’t have a special needs child and have something awesome you say that you would recommend? Any advice welcome and then I can pick what I like for my kids.